So out of many help cries coming out of the world of moms, once upon a time god heard one.
Mom: Ohh Jesus! Why you did this to me?
And suddenly the god appears behind her…
God: Why My child ? What happened?
Mom (stunned) : oh umm,,, you really came. Well… there was no need actually you must have more important things to worry about. And i was, you know just cribbing, didn’t realize someone was actually listening.
God: Why do you think so my child? It’s possible that you might really need help and it’s just not only the cribbing.
Mom : No, i really think its only cribbing, because everyone in the family say’s so and you know so many people can’t be wrong. Also they have some valid points.
God: Like what ??
Mom: Like our moms have done the same without any complaints and their mom and their moms. It seems i am the only one with so many complains, So i think there is some problem with me only.
God: oh, did you talk to them like heart to heart? Even if they claim to be a non-complaining oh-so perfect mother, you are a different person with your own abilities and imperfections. So there is a chance your problems are genuine and need resolution.
Mom (Amused) : oh… i am feeling better already. So you say, my problems are really genuine and we are going to talk about them.
God: That’s why i am here.
Mom: So let’s get comfortable because it’s a long list man…..
Okay… let’s start with the when it all started. My child. It’s not like i didn’t want him. I love him more than anything and you see that is the problem.
God: How so ??
Mom: Well, A) He is always on top priority B) He always needs me still when he is 3 already
and i don’t know when there is an end to this.
God: Well, that is how you moms and children have been made to function.
Mom: That’s the problem, you know. There are so many things that have been intentionally made difficult for us women clan and you don’t even want to improve in that area.
God : Do you have any suggestions?
Mom : Just on the motherhood side, like can’t the human kids can grow as fast as the animal kids. In 6 months a cat shoos away her children from her abode and prepares for another batch but my child could not even chew food at 6 months.
Why there are so many stages of milestones… teething, weaning, potty training, crawling, walking and on and on. It seems as if i am the one who have been tested.
God: oh, don’t you follow any of the mom influencers. I heard there are so many of them and they have all sorts of advice for baby care. Perks of being in the age of social age.
Mom: yeah i know i know. But every kid is different and i can’t guinea pig my child.
Also honestly i don’t even trust the pediatrician we follow for my child care.
Leave that aside i don’t trust my husband with my child, i think sometimes he thinks our son as a guinea pig. Also i don’t trust my cook, i think she puts so much oil in my baby’s food. Also the house-help who washes his clothes, sometimes it feels like there is still some soaked detergent in clothes. Oh my god, now I think i have trust issues as well.
You see, so i try to do all that by myself and everyone thinks that i am being lazy because everything is already being done by the helps provided.
And my current struggles – potty training and phonics. That reminds me, you mentioned the mom-influencers right. If they are the help that is needed sometimes, they are also the ones putting up this extra pressure to perform better. Comparison is a human nature , thankfully gifted by you. So it’s natural that when i see their children achieving the milestone before my child, i feel terrible.
And where does all that time goes, really? I mean i would really use some extra hours if you can add upto the day. And what is this weird guilt feeling that i never felt before while listening to music or Netflixing. Ahhh… sometimes i just want to eat my food without sharing or without washing someone’s poop in between.
Also where are those people who said it will be easy once he is out of the belly or it will be easy once he starts to eat or it will be easy once he starts to speak. Okay, leave all that aside just let me know when will it be easy ? You are God, you certainly know it. So please just tell me this one thing. (turns around) God….God….
But god was nowhere to be found.
Mom (to herself) : i think i may have gone too far. Obviously he is god, he has far better things to do. What’s wrong with me.. .. Was i actually cribbing…….?
Just when the baby calls (mumma …mummma) because he climbed up to the window 3245th time from where he can’t climb down.